Blog 4. Who attends strip clubs most?

When I first posted my poll, I though well for sure everyone would say straight men attend strip clubs, and the majority of the class did, but when I posted the question I was debating with myself on if straight men or gay men attended strip clubs more. According to my research the class was right straight men to attend strip clubs more, but straight women do as well. In many of my seaches I found headlines like "I want to go to a strip club with my boyfriend" and "Is it a good idea to take my girlfriend to a strip club?" The most interesting one I found was "Why strip clubs are good for your marriage." When I read this I was set back, and thought how could this ever be a good thing but as I read more I found that this was all about trust. "My wife knows she has nothing to worry about and neither so most woman. She knows that I would not blow her trust by paying a scantily clad woman $500 to take my pasty, fat married a**into some back room for an hour. No good can come of that."(Cleary, Mike) You can not expect all men to be this way. In that story the Mike Cleary says that he and his wife have been married 16 years and don't have a great realationship with each other. To make this work it all depends on the status of your realationship. Some women don't every wont their husband or boyfriend to go to a strip club ever in their lives. Others join their husbands and boyfriends and find going to the strip clubs gives a boost to their sex life. (about.com) I think that the fantasy of being with the other woman is intriguing, but the men know that they can't be with those woman so they realize what they already have is the best thing in the world. Im sure that the wife's and girlfriends feel self conches seeing this beautiful, skinny woman, but at the end of the night she is the one that is going home with a man who loves her. All of the research I did came to one conciliation, if you set rules as a couple and follow those rules a strip club is a harmless environment.

This is a clip form a movie that many people know that is showing a couple going to a strip club together. They are not there for pleaser but it is still funny

As a class the poll was very accurate but I also wanted to look into gay men, because you see it on TV and you heir about it all the time. It is a stereotype but is it a true stereotype? When I did research on gay men going to strip clubs I could not find statistics or a good cite that said anything about gay men attending strip clubs. The only thing that I found that led me to believe that the stereotype is true is I found many addresses to gay clubs. There are many cites that are "gay travel" cites that help gay and lesbians navigate through a city. I think if a gay man or a lesbian woman did attend a gay bar it would be more for the purpose of meeting other homosexuals, not to see the dancers. This also makes since to me because I think it would be hard to meet other homosexuals in a big city or really anywhere.

Over all straight men attend strip clubs most frequently. Straight woman will go with their boyfriend or husband. They will also get a male stripper for a bachelorette party. Gay men go to gay bars but not for the same reason. I did not find to much about lesbian women, but I did read that they will attend a normal strip club because it is attractive to them, which only makes since. As I was doing my research I was shocked at what I found about the couples going together, but I underused why a couple would. This made me think I hope it makes you think also.

Works Cited

Cleary, Mike. "Why Strip Clubs Are Good For Marriage | YourTango." Smart Talk About Love | YourTango. Web. 27 Oct. 2011. <http://www.yourtango.com/200913788/strip-clubs-help-my-marriage/page/2>.

"Strip Clubs - Would You Let Your Husband Go to the Strip Club?" Newlyweds. Web. 27 Oct. 2011. <http://newlyweds.about.com/u/ua/lovesex/Strip-Clubs-Would-You-Let-Your-Husband-Go-To-The-Strip-Club.htm>.

I had a very hard time finding a good credible cite for the research I was finding. I thought that Newlyweds from about.com was a good credible cite because people now the cite and are familiar with it. The YourTango cite is kind of pushing it but I feel that this is also okay because it is a story that this man is telling and there is an author. This man was not ashamed of his story and not afraid to out his name on it so I think that is must be good.